Forgiveness is a virtue. Grudge is a burden.

Has he/she torn your world apart?  Has your hope been dashed?  Your plans have been shattered.  No!  your happiness has been soiled. The bastard should be punished. How can you get back at this person ? Your heart must be filled with disgust right now.  Never!  You can't go into any relationship with commitments again. The list can go on and on. These are our thoughts when we've been hurt. The excruciating pain of a failed relationship, One of those unfortunate events we encounter as humans.
   Some nurture these thoughts like a nursing mother to her child. Others regurgitate them when their minds are idle. Yes!  It is very difficult to forgive but what will the grudges lead to? Many find themselves literally bitter for so many months,  sometimes  years just because they've been hurt.  Some become sexists and others are busy plotting towards the downfall of their "heartbreakers".
   Often times, grudges overpower those good parts of us and turn us into beings we never could have imagined.  The inability to snap out of an unpalatable situation keeps the mind depressed. Forgiving unleashes sadness, it makes the mind light, it cures the illness of bitterness and to a large extent it makes us stronger. Shock that "heartbreaker" today and set your soul free.

Exactly how long should a relationship last?

 

As years flip through,  long term relationships are fast fading from reality into tele-novelas. The hurt and waste of time which constitute the consequences of  this type of relationship has kept so many from travelling that road.  For men, the scar from a failed long term relationship seem to clear up in no time but the female folk cannot say the same. Experiences have shown that ladies are hardly capable to start all over again. The thought of trying to adjust their lifetystles which has been fine- tuned becomes a nightmare. In general the irreversible commitment by both parties  is one very difficult sacrifice to make these days.
    However, let's not forget that there are two sides to a coin.  It uncritical to not highlight the numerous advantages of a long term relationship and it's gross success in the past and present. Having spent so much time together,  partners seem to be fond of each other. Each party learns to cope with the other, the bond is usually without limits. It also promotes deep levels of trust in one another, in fact the list is endless.  Let it be known also that couples who dated for long periods tend to be more resilient in keeping their marriages.
      The sad truth about all good relationships is that things cannot always be smooth.  Challenging times will pop up and being able to fight for the relationship as best as one can is key to its success.  Both parties need to learn to forgive and know that nothing good comes easy. Partners should approach shortcomings as a test, overcome them and move on quickly.
     Its very delightful to wake up every morning knowing that someone somewhere trusts and loves you unconditionally. Many years of being together guarantees this.  So if you have been seeing someone for some time, do your best to keep him/her for as long as you can.  Unimaginable joy awaits you.  And if you are still not convinced that long term relationships are ideal,  ask yourself if marriages are without glitches.